Points to Elizabeth! (And if you haven't checked out her blog yet - what are you waiting for! This girl is funny!) I loved reading everyone's answers to yesterday's question - underhanded compliments seem to seek me out. And I've done many a faux pas of my own... so glad I'm not alone!
I was reading this morning about another blogger's experience in the principal's office. Very timely, because we're headed there this morning.
Elliot isn’t in school yet (come on, September!!!), but his current preschool is concerned, as are we, that he’s going to be labeled in school and that it will follow him forever. His main teacher said that in her twenty years in the daycare/preschool/school system, she's only run into kids like Elliot a few times. And in most cases, things turned out badly. Elliot is an exceptionally bright kid (seriously, we’ve had him tested) but his emotional and social skills are lacking. We were advised to keep him in a program with children his own age so he could learn social skills, but that he needs to be intellectually stimulated or else he'd get bored and act out. He’s sweet and loving and happy, until he gets frustrated, whether is due to being challenged by an art project or a friend or whatever, then all bets are off and he goes feral, jumping on the closest outlet, fists swinging
Oy. There have been parent complaints. And many incident reports.
The preschool is worried that the public school system – even though we’re in one of the best districts in our city – won’t have the time or resources to handle him and that it will all go badly, quickly.
Hence the meeting today. And we’re waiting for a meeting with the director at a private school. ($$$$$ ouch, but worth it if he flourishes.) I'm even thinking about home schooling him, but that will do squat for the socializing part. And I reallllly don't think I'm cut out for home schooling. I was taught that way, for all of grade 1 and part of grade 2, and it was incredibly rough making the switch to public school in grade 3, when all of the cliques and lines had been set. I never did grade primary/kindergarten and I never did finish half of grade 2. My little brother maintains that he will always be smarter than me for that reason.
We've been reading books about spirited children and watching Elliot's diet to see what might be influencing things. (Chocolate/sugar is a huge factor, poor kid. The more frequently he has it, the more frequent the outbursts.) Hubby is recognizing many of his own traits and coping mechanisms being repeated in Elliot, the good and the bad. I guess this is what happens when 2 spirited children grow up, marry each other and start producing more children. For now, Felix seems spared. For now.
So, onto today's GMBOA question... we've talked about self-parenting but what is your parenting technique or style? Do you hover in the helicopter style? Are you free-range? Authoritative? Permissive? Has it changed as your children age? Is it the same style you planned on having, before you had kids? If you aren't a parent, how would you imagine yourself to be? Do you parent your pets?
Pssst: It's not too late to earn points on the previous questions - check them out here and here and respond accordingly. Make sure you're a follower over at the creamery and then you'll be golden!